Drop what? Control.
It’s the single most difficult thing to do because along with control comes a sense of safety. A sense of knowing what to expect. But control can be an obstacle to living life fully.
There are many times when I find myself grasping desperately at ways to feel in more control. I will over think something in an effort to have a step by step layout in my mind. I will often attempt to plan each and every detail of my day in my daily calendar. I will run and rerun scenarios over and over until I feel as though I’ve chased away my anxiety. It never works, yet I keep trying!
Am I saying these practices are completely wrong? No, I don’t think they are. On the contrary, they are necessary and conducive to an organized life. The important piece is to keep them in check; use them only in small doses.
In my case, it’s the degree to which I indulge my tendencies to gain control. I simply have to remember to pull myself back. I have to nudge myself to back off and let things happen organically. “Remember, Terran, the details always work themselves out. You’ve survived 29 years and you’re doing just fine. Seriously! LET IT GO.”
It’s a daily habit for me to try to gain control but life always provides me with gentle (or sometimes not so gentle!) reminders that I am not the one calling the shots.
2015 Is Knocking.
So what brings this particular topic up? Well I’ll tell you. If you follow my blog, you know that I have had a year packed full of changes. They were massive and made my life feel turbulent, often leaving me confused and upset because I did not understand why they were happening. Or I should say what purpose they were happening for. As in: what’s the bigger picture? The changes, though welcome and necessary, were unsettling. So many times, I wanted to hide from life. Can I just pull the covers over my head and not leave my bedroom? That’s right the Life Coach, the one who helps others face their demons, needed to escape.
Luckily, this city does not let you stay under the safety of your covers. Thanks New York. I owe ya one!
Vanilla Can Be Just as Delicious as Chocolate.
I am happy to report that for the first time in 2014 and a large part of 2013, the changes are nice. Nice is such a vanilla word, I know, but vanilla feels oh-so-good right now. I welcome the feeling of “nice” with open arms. I am finally allowed to relax and truly let go. Feels amazing!
Now the changes are happening in bite size pieces and I am beginning to feel comfy in my life. I picture myself letting go and falling backwards all the while knowing I’ll be just fine. I’m exactly where I need to be, with all the perfect people and right situations coming into my life. All I have to do is show up. That’s all.
I am so thankful to be where I am, who I am and doing what I do. It is a nice place to be!
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– Terran Leigh
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