I never got the memo.
Twenty nine lovely years of me moving steadily along keeping my head down and minding my own business and I may have totally missed the mark.
Lightbulb moment! I now get that in order to be a happy person, I HAVE GOT TO FIND WAYS TO HAVE FUN IN EVERY POSSIBLE WAY EVERY SINGLE DAY!
Sorry for yelling. I’m calm again.
Who knew that having fun in life was ridiculously, fabulously and all around exceptionally important!? Um…not I.
I picked up my fair share of “this is how you are supposed to live your life” lessons like the rest of you guys and gals.
I gathered that it was important to work hard, be responsible, think before you act, work first play later…lah-tee-dah and on it goes. These are the things I picked up from my parents, teachers, grandparents and major childhood influencers.
Yet, no one ever taught me to have fun, find enjoyment or create pleasure in my life. In fact, I’m pretty sure I somehow formed the idea that fun is actually bad and irresponsible (Gasp!) when it comes to the important stuff.
No finger-pointing here; I’m just so relieved I finally figured it out. Time for a course correction and a new goal to focus on. And that focus, my friends, is going to be fun.
What Is All This “Happiness” Crap?
I’ve read books and nodded in agreement as they stated the importance of creating happiness. I’ve listened to talks about the positive effects of happiness, making a mental post-it note to begin getting my happy on immediately. I’ve even watched videos on the consequences “happy hormones” have on your physiology. All good stuff. Sadly it went into one ear then right out the other.
The way I figured it is I had better get my life in perfect order (yeah like that is ever going to happen) then I’d focus on that “happiness thing”. I surely missed the part where you must focus on fun and happiness first foremost then the other stuff will get easier (and more pleasant) as a result!
In the past I had trouble having fun and being happy. It was easy for me to be negative, angry or even sad. It’s been like some twisted addiction. So instead of being addicted to a substance it was a set of emotions or a state of being I became addicted to. Weird, huh?
Not really that weird if I stop to think about it. When I look around I notice people tend to complain instead of brag about the good things in their lives. Folks talk about what is going wrong with their bodies instead of the organs that are purring along just fine. In place of lifting others up, most of the time we tend to gossip about people. This is the our cultural norm. Unless you’re just an insanely happy person, in which case, rock on!
My new norm is now a mission to have fun. I’m starting with super small doses.
God forbid I have TOO much fun and shut the whole show down! You might laugh at this but I’ve been known to rain on many a parade…my own parades mostly;-)
I’m treading lightly as I ease into this new lane of traffic.
Where Flow and Fun Collide
Who knew having fun was so important to achieving a flow in my life? Well, news flash, it is! It makes perfect sense but it had not dawned on me before now. Why wouldn’t fun, happy people attract fun, happy situations? Well when I put it that way it looks completely obvious but again, until you know, you don’t know…ya know?
So basically the lesson is this: do small (or big!) things each day to have fun and make yourself just a little happier. Build on these practices each day by talking about them, sharing them and thinking about them. Then challenge yourself to one-up yourself and just watch what begins to happen in your life.
One word: FLOW happens.
I’m telling you people, you don’t want to miss out on this new practice because it’s stupid easy. But beware, for if you are a habitually negative person you will experience resistance. No worries. Go for more fun in the face of your resistance. When you feel like crap then it’s time to have some more fun! When you feel angry at yourself, accept the anger, let it pass then go find a way to make yourself laugh!
– Terran Leigh
KEEP CALM AND TAP ON IT
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